WHY ARE YOU GIVING OUT THE WRONG SIGNALS?

Why is it that so easy to listen to some people and challenging to pay attention and listen to what some other people are saying?
Is it just about the words used or the interesting nature of the conversation or the situation? Maybe all or any of these, however it will also be the impression you make on others or they make on you when you first meet. First impressions on meeting are so important to the conduct of any conversation whether social, business or intimate. Why is this so?
Every human being immediately on meeting you, and not just on the first occasion, makes decisions on whether you are someone they warm too, are nervous about, excited by, fearful of, complacent about or simply not interested in. These decisions become instant perceptions of you as a person that will remain as significant influences on their behaviour towards you until such time as you are able to modify them. This you will do through the words you use, the manner in which you respond, listen and interact with them.
A great deal has been written about the importance of body language in achieving positive communication and successful relationships, a few ideas on this come later, however it is very clear that first impressions are stronger if you are able to present a physical body that appears healthy and ‘alive’.
First impressions of someone who is overweight, too slim, unkempt, slovenly, lacking in energy, displaying low movements and apparent lack of vigour will significantly increase the chances of others forming a negative perception, so affecting relationships, motivation, conversation and self esteem.

The first step to understanding the importance of body language in human relationships is to learn the lessons of Lose Weight – Look Good – Feel Great.

Is your weight appropriate to your height and age?
Do you look healthy and as smart as you feel able too?
Is the way you look helping you feel confident and positive about yourself or at the very least helping you not feel negative, awkward or at any disadvantage when meeting others.

There are no rights or wrongs to how you should look or feel, however it is very clear that when you look good you will feel great.
How do you look?
Do you need to lose weight? Do you take care of your body and appearance?
Do you know how important these are to making your body language work for you?
Body language is more reliable and honest compared to what the person actually says. Usually it is through body language that you can determine the real state of emotions of another individual.

There are so many ways of interpreting body language that at times, it is the source of misunderstandings. However, body language is very easy to read once you know how to read them. Here are some examples of body language and how they are interpreted.

1. When a person is receptive and accepts your idea.
• Palms are facing upward and the hands rests on the table or
the thigh.
• Nodding of head and frequent smile.
• Unbuttoning of the top jacket for male.
• Inclination of the head forward or towards the speaker.
2. When someone is frustrated or disappointed.
• Rubbing the back of the neck or scratching of the hair.
• They kick the dust on their feet.
3. When someone is hiding something.
• Hands on their pocket.
• Hiding of hands.
• Stance is slouched with arms crossed.
4. When a listener is bored.
• Playing of the hands.
• No eye contact.
• Clicking of the pen nonstop or tapping of the pen on the
table or notepad.
• Ceaseless yawning.
• Legs crossed with repetitive rocking motion for females.
5. When someone is excited.
• Clapping of hands.
• Fingers crossed.
• Rubbing of palms together.
6. When one is angry or mad.
• Clenched fists.
• Tapping of hands or feet.
• Arms crossed over the chest.
• Gripping the edge of the table or seat.
7. When one is nervous or scared.
• Whistling to conceal their true feeling.
• Standing with legs crossed.
• Avoiding eye contact.
• Arms are crossed but are very tensed.
• Hands are interlocked and knuckles are turning white.
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Conclusion: To be a more able communicator, more effective in building relationships, more influential in business or simply enjoy better and more interesting conversations and intimacy develop your Lose Weight - Look Good – Feel Great ideas and practice the simple ideas above to improve your body language.